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What’s Next? Life.
A friend in sobriety, who was feeling down, asked today: “What’s next? What now??” Here are the two cents I offered up, in case anyone else is struggling with the same. “What now, darling? You breathe. You keep stepping forward. You appreciate a snowflake or a warm mug of hot…
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100 Things to Do Instead of Drinking
The early time of sobriety can seem to be, among other things, incredibly boring. Add the early dark of winter and the isolation of COVID and it’s a recipe for thumb twiddling, particularly if all the standard recommendations – try some yoga! meditate! make a cup of tea! – make you…
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We Have A Responsibility to One Another; Don’t Ignore It
The other day I circled through the neighborhood to pick up kiddos after school and noticed 10 or so middle-school kids engaged in a game of football. No social distancing, no masks in sight. Lots of tackling and rolling around on the ground, though. You might imagine my general disappointment…
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The Difference Between Abstinence & Sobriety
I was talking with friends recently about the distinction between abstinence (aka, “putting the plug in the jug”) and sobriety (a longer-term prospect defined, in part, by a sustained period of abstinence)… and what “relapse” means in the context of the process of recovery rather than the counting of abstinent…
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Measuring Success in Unconventional Times
It’s that time of year when social media fills up with pictures of kids in their summer skin looking cleaner than usual. There are fewer of these snaps this August, with just 1 in 7 kids in the U.S. returning to brick-and-mortar school full time this fall (so says a New…
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Everything Will Be Okay
So I mentioned yesterday that the last couple months have felt like a thing after a thing after a thing: the sucky Great “Let’s Try Tapering Off Our Antidepressants!” Experiment, which let anxiety and depression rear its nasty head in a big way; a flooded finished basement wreaked havoc on…
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A Thing After A Thing After A Thing
Thank God for the honest women, the ones who bare their murky times and remind me the power of doing the same. In the last 24 hours my newsfeed has delivered posts from a half-dozen women I admire – Stephanie Birch, Laura McKowen, Holly Whitaker, Celeste Yvonne – The Ultimate Mom Challenge, The Joy…
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The Freedom of the Forest
You know that saying “Can’t see the forest for the trees?,” the one that describes being so focused on the details that you miss the big picture? I had one of those forest-seeing moments the other day and, lemme tell you, it was better than finding $5 in the pocket…
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Nothing to Be Ashamed Of
Too thick? Too thin? Too lazy? Too ambitious? Too emotional? Too heartless? Too angry plain conceited spineless promiscuous self-centered spontaneous blunt irresponsible bold sad wild dorky smart driven timid busy accommodating perfect broken? No. NO NO NO NO NO. You might be any of those things – hell, you might…
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