I’m Becky.
Longtime yoga student and teacher, proud corporate dropout, sober mom and stepmom to four teenagers. I’m a pet lover, book hoarder, plant tender, change seeker, curator of things that smell good. Enneagram 8, anti-small talk, pro-hygge, big hugger. Midwest-born and raised; Rocky Mountain-bound when it’s time to retire. Mediocre cook, terrible singer, working on finding patience (especially with aforementioned teens).
But the most important thing about me is that I am made of stardust – and I believe you are, too.
If there’s one question that stumps me, it’s this: “What do you do for a living?” The answer was much easier in the old days when I worked in newspapers, political campaigns, and PR.
If you want an “elevator pitch,” I’ll tell you I’m an empowerment writer, teacher, and speaker, and founder of You Are Not Stuck®.
But that’s starting pretty far into the story. That’s the how I do what I do.
What lives beneath is the what, which is the way I describe my actual work of helping people identify and create the life that is calling to them.
In that way, I’m a soul whisperer. A dream doula. A change catalyst. I’m a guide into the questions for which only you have answers. Poet David Whyte refers to these inquiries as “questions that can make or unmake a life… questions that have no right to go away.” I see the divine badass in you, charm it out, and cheer it on.
The most important part of the story, though, is the why. Why is this work of empowerment what I’m called to do? The answer to that is simple:
I’ve lived a life that looked good on the outside but felt horrible on the inside.
I’ve lived a life that I didn’t feel authorized to change.
I’ve lived a life that I felt hopelessly stuck… and once I found freedom, I made it my mission to help others find it, too.
Please know this: You are not intended to spend this life squeezed and choked and squashed in a vise of Other People’s design, or values that aren’t your own, or an outdated world view; no, you were made for discernment, cultivation, and expansion.
Lines are not meant to be toed, they are meant to be moved and redrawn and colored in and erased until they suit you—and you can do that as many times as you like.
They’re your lines, after all.
Becky is no-bullshit real. She’s got an energy and warmth that’s born from her unique and relentless optimism. Yes, she’s a cheerleader. She’s a whip-cracker, too.
Scott Stabile
Author of Big Love
Becky combines deep caring with a kick-ass attitude (and humor!) to help you break the cycle, form new habits, and find a new — healthier and happier — path for your life.
Amy Calvin
Executive Coach
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A few years ago, when I'd reached the point in the book development process when it was time to match epigraphs to chapters, I was thrilled. Every writer's dream, right?!
Yes, I was thrilled... but also overwhelmed. With so many great lines from books that had absolutely changed my life, I wasn't sure which to choose. Mary Oliver! Elizabeth Gilbert! Nayyirah Waheed! Glennon Doyle! Pema Chodron! Cheryl Strayed! Scott Stabile! Elena Brower! It was like standing inside a world-class ice cream shop, with thousands of flavors to pick from, but only room for two scoops on my cone. (Well, in this case, nine chapters = nine scoops but you know what I mean.)
Anyway, there was one quote I never doubted would make the cut from the moment I heard it shared in a sobriety meeting by Louise Atthey , this one from Jedidiah Jenkins ' book "Like Streams to the Ocean:"
"We are waiting for permission, for examples. But what if you are the example?"
WHAT IF YOU ARE THE EXAMPLE INDEED?
What if you alone have the power to cultivate the life you most deeply want to live?
What if you - not some outside force - are the only one who can guide your spirit to freedom?
What if yours is the singular voice of validation your ears ever need to hear?
That's the process of "You Are Not Stuck:" learning to make the soul-guided choices that only you can and, in doing so, becoming your own example.
The last pic is a list of all the epigraphs included in the book. Curious whose quote kicked things off? Guess you'll just have to read to find out! It's a good one! 😉(And all the others mentioned earlier are included elsewhere.)
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Rework and rebound... as many times as it takes. I do a little bit every day. 💗 ... See MoreSee Less
Ohhhhh yes. Yes yes yes yes yes.
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