When the Gains Outweigh the Losses

A friend of mine asked me recently whether I ever missed the hustle and bustle of my old corporate job.

“Hmmmmm……… let me think…………. um……….. nope,” I replied.

Funnily enough, I haven’t gotten that question in a while so I didn’t have a canned answer. But the stream of consciousness that came out reminded me about the power of heart-following:

“I miss seeing some folks every day. I miss my paycheck. I really miss my health insurance benefits. Occasionally I miss a night alone in a hotel room.

I do not miss feeling crushed by a never ending burden of stress. I do not miss eating lunch hunched over my computer every day. I do not miss high heels. I do not miss billing or time entry or forecasts or margins. I do not miss measuring my worth by my title. I do not miss dreading Sunday nights and Monday mornings.

Now I love waking up. I love setting my own agenda based on my own priorities and values. I love that taking time out of my day to unroll my yoga mat is considered ‘professional development.’ I love flip flops. I love wearing my hair curly.

I love being my own boss and having the freedom to chase any damn dream I choose with no one telling me I can’t. I love spending more time with my kids. I love spending more time with myself. I love watching myself evolve in ways I never expected.”

Do I get stressed about the long-term financial implications of walking away from six figures for a less-certain future? Sure, sometimes. But do I question whether I did the right thing? Not for a second. As a good friend reminds me, “Shit works out.”


P.S. And I love this community. You guys are the best of the best. If you’re considering a big shift, maybe take a minute and think through the things you won’t miss and compare them with the things you will. You might be surprised at just how far the scales may tip. <3


Recent Posts

What If You Are the Example?

A few years ago, when I’d reached the point in the book development process when it was time to match epigraphs to chapters, I was thrilled. Every writer’s dream, right?! Yes, I was thrilled… but also overwhelmed. With so many great lines from books that had absolutely changed my life,…

Read More

The Value of Journaling

When thoughts and feelings demand to be heard, unpacked, and nurtured, my go to is a hot date with my journal. Like therapy, writing is most helpful when habitual and not just a fury we unleash in crisis mode (although there is great power in that release, too). Writing is…

Read More

When Addictive Behaviors Make Us Feel “A Little Bit Crazy”

Oh, man. Here’s a thought that hits home. I had the most vivid image during a therapy session last week: Little Becky, maybe six or seven years old, standing in the middle of a circle, absolutely terrified. Around her stood all the inner parts who seek to keep her safe….

Read More

Want email updates and inspiration?

A sporadic love letter from me to you with insights, happenings, homework, and the occasional kick in the pants.

This field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged.