Old Ways Won’t Open New Doors

You know the old saying about the definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

So how about trying something new?

For me, it looked a little like this:

Old ways = Guilt, hesitation, self-doubt, behavior I knew was unproductive at best and destructive at worst, holding a grudge, holding my breath, being generally paralyzed by fear.

New ways = Embracing change, valuing myself, remembering that I have choices and feeling empowered to make them, learning to say “no” with grace so I can say “oh, hell, yes!” with enthusiasm, breathing in compassion and breathing out love.

How about you? If you were to paint a picture of “old” and “new” — or perhaps “current” and “aspirational” — what words might you use?

Take five minutes for homework and see what comes out. New doors won’t open by themselves.

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