I’m Becky.
Advocate for empowerment, choice, mental health and wellbeing; longtime yoga student and teacher; proud corporate dropout; sober mama raising four teenagers.
I’m a pet lover, book hoarder, plant tender, change seeker, curator of things that smell good. Enneagram 8, anti-small talk, pro-hygge, big hugger. Midwest-born and raised. Mediocre cook, terrible (but enthusiastic!) tap dancer,
50 years old and forever figuring life out.
Mostly, though, I’m a meat-coated skeleton made of stardust – and I believe you are, too.
If there’s a question that stumps me, it’s: “What do you do for a living?” The answer was much easier in the old days when I worked in newspapers, political campaigns, and PR.
If you want an “elevator pitch,” I’ll tell you I’m an empowerment writer, teacher, and speaker, and founder of You Are Not Stuck®.
But that’s starting pretty far into the story. That’s the how I do what I do.
What lives beneath is the what, which is the way I describe my actual work: helping people identify and create the life that is calling to them.
In that way, I’m a soul whisperer. A dream doula. A change catalyst. I’m a guide into the questions for which only you have answers. Poet David Whyte refers to these inquiries as “questions that can make or unmake a life… questions that have no right to go away.” I see the divine badass in you, charm it out, and cheer it on.
The most important part of the story, though, is the why. Why is this work of empowerment what I’m called to do? The answer to that is simple:
I’ve lived a life that looked good on the outside but felt horrible on the inside.
I’ve lived a life that I didn’t feel authorized to change.
I’ve lived a life that I felt hopelessly stuck… and once I found freedom, I made it my mission to help others find it, too.
Please know this: You are not intended to spend this life squeezed and choked and squashed in a vise of Other People’s design, or values that aren’t your own, or an outdated world view; no, you were made for discernment, cultivation, and expansion.
Lines are not meant to be toed, they are meant to be moved and redrawn and colored in and erased until they suit you—and you can do that as many times as you like.
They’re your lines, after all.
Becky is no-bullshit real. She’s got an energy and warmth that’s born from her unique and relentless optimism. Yes, she’s a cheerleader. She’s a whip-cracker, too.
Scott Stabile
Author of Big Love
Becky combines deep caring with a kick-ass attitude (and humor!) to help you break the cycle, form new habits, and find a new — healthier and happier — path for your life.
Amy Calvin
Executive Coach
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For anyone with some extra time this long weekend, I offer a li’l yoga practice called Front Body Freedom. It’s not particularly fancy, but it sure feels good.
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"Why have I chosen, freely, to enter yet another world – especially when I have such little interest in participating in all the other worlds where I’ve planted my little flag, a tiny toothpick amid countless other toothpicks, each stabbing into dry, shallow earth hoping to gain a foothold?
Short answer: To go deeper.”
Introducing my new home on Substack: tenderfierce.
I’ve decided Substack is the right place to go deeper on all the things I have been holding back. Having different levels of access to content makes it feel safer than the kind of social media we’ve gotten used to over the last decade plus – loud, crowded, churning, risky.And, Substack is a one-stop-shop for everything I’ve been wanting to do: long-form posts that just aren’t possible here, a more intimate space for community and conversation, a meaningful way to manage email – and, very soon, a podcast.
There is just one post up so far, but over time I’ll be directing more and more resources there. Hope you’ll take a moment to read and join me!
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Hiiiii CA friends! A reminder about the workshop this Saturday afternoon, 6/28, at @crave_yoga_mountainview . We’ll breathe, move, connect, laugh, cry and so much more. Join us!
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